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Today was a great deal of Ar Tonelico (man, that game is so weird it could only be made by Atom Bomb Bad people) which is very pretty, wondering about the problematicness of mineral oil in many body lotions...and that was pretty much it. More of the same tomorrow. Food was leftovers. Yum. Current Mood:  sleepy |
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Tomorrow I go to NJ for a few days, R&R (video games and tea and blobbiness probably).
I've an urge to run a game in this world. May do a one-shot involving space pirates.
I'm working on a mix of my favorite songs of the year. Here's what I have so far-
AFI - Okay, I Feel Better Now (Crash Love, 2009)
Mars Volta - Teflon (Octahedron, 2009)
Depeche Mode - In Sympathy (Sounds of the Universe, 2009)
Mesh - Only Better (A Perfect Solution, 2009)
Etro Anime - Danger (See the Sound, 2002)
Nine Inch Nails - Lights in the Sky (The Slip, 2008)
Sarah Brightman - Where the Lost Ones Go (Symphony, 2008)
Oomph! - Die Schlinge (GlaubeLiebeTod, 2006)
Gathering - Shortest Day (Home, 2006)
Sonata Arctica - Everything Fades to Grey (The Day of Greys, 2009)
Symphony X - Communion and the Oracle (V: The New Mythology Suite, 2000)
Been grooving to Crash Love and A Perfect Solution lots the past few days.Current Mood:  busy Current Music: Mesh - It's Gone |
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So last time I was holding a large gathering at my house I realized that I should probably analyze the meaning/intention behind it.
Because friendship isn't as clear-cut as it used to be for me.
I mean, there are multiple dimensions that a given friendship can scale on.
A) how long have we considered each other as family/pseudofamily?
B) how much will we go out of our way to help each other, while weighing in factors such as work and interpersonal commitments (but not things such as fear-of-intimacy/introversion/disinterest)?
C) how many common beliefs/values do we have?
C) how many common passions do we have?
D) how similar are our comedic preferences?
E) how often do we talk, while weighing in factors such as work and interpersonal commitments (but not things such as fear-of-intimacy/introversion/disinterest)?
F) how often do we encounter each other in the absolute?
G) how happy are we to see each other?
H) how likely are the previous seven scales to increase overall?
I would call anyone who hits a positive note on any of those eight measurements at least a friend. However, were I to invite everyone I consider a friend over to gatherings I hold, I'd probably break some important laws regarding fire hazards. Also, nobody would have any room and feeding people would be an utter, utter bastard.
So... I used to just sort of conglomerate all 8 scales into one measurement, and use that as a heuristic to judge whether or not I'd invite a given person (and possibly some of their friends) over.
But that can get complicated. If I'm running out of room, who do I invite? The person I've known for 3 years who I know will not be there for me if I could use a favor? Or the person who I've known for 6 months, but seems likely to potentially be a close friend for life?
And the latest, most confusing bit, the one that doesn't seem to have an easily satisfying solution is: what the fuck do I do with people who think of friendship very differently than I do? I have at least one friend who considers me close, yet said friend will bail on me if the chips are down. This is weird. I understand that from HIS/HER point of view, I am a close friend. But (s)he doesn't reach out, nor does (s)he want to talk when I reach out. And yet, for this person, I am a close friend. I mean, in the past, I just shrug and say 'sorry, but you don't cut it when I have so many people who are such good friends in so many ways', but lately I'm thinking... should I factor in that, for this person, I am important? Not sure how I should weigh that.
Life is so much simpler when you're not the one always reaching out and organizing stuff. |
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The amount I want to fall out of my chair laughing is rather impressive. Who does a lie protect?
Today's muttering: "The stupid often results in spectacular."
Yesterday's mom-quote: "My goodness, you know how to buy a ticket!"Current Music: AFI - Okay, I Feel Better Now |
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